don’t assume others’ pain.

when someone hurls hate at you, demeans you for your choices, or are condescending in their demeanor, it always has nothing to do with you. they are simply reflecting a pain of their own. there is something within themselves that recognizes it as shame. that is a pain that they have to heal them-self from. if someone felt that you were a person who is truly in the wrong and in danger of whatever that triggered their hate, they would feel sorry for you instead. you might even get empathy from one who is genuine. hate, disdain and condescension are a preview to a self that is likely volatile, insecure and feels some type of internal pain.

but when you lash out back at them, you validate the hate and it is successfully transferred to you. also, by buying into the hate, you assume their pain. you will likely start feeling this pain yourself, and hurl hate towards others to make yourself feel better, and so on and so on. you can instead, be kind in your response because you feel bad that they have a pain with the disdain that they have shown. live truthfully and confidently, and don’t get rattled by someone else who is not doing the same. don’t make their pain yours, reject it.

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before the doctrine.

before anyone was ever an adult, they were someone’s innocent lovable bouncing baby. adults are then babies that grew up being indoctrinated with social and human construct. someone doted on the homeless guy on the street corner when he was a baby. the murderer was an innocent bouncing baby before they became the criminal they are now. the penniless barefoot woman, was just another innocent beautiful baby before being taught into understanding that they were born into poverty. we’re not wholly sullied as adults. we might forget how it felt to be an innocent child and bury the memory deep within us, however, that fact is still lodged in us. the wisdom of yourself as a child is within, whether you seek to be in touch with it or not. each and every person you lay your eyes on, was born free of all stigmas and was just as innocent as they were lovable. acknowledging that there’s still this perfect and unsullied lineage of every soul, because we were all born that way, can help you develop some compassion for every person you come across, and not judge them for whom they have become or what the world turned them into.


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be a witness.

when I see beauty (grace) everywhere and feel overcome with a surge of gratitude for being a witness to it, I am reminded that each soul on earth was brought here to bear witness. being here to witness man’s greed and evil (as it is inflicted upon you) is such a heavy task. when something bad happens to you, try with your might to be a witness, instead of ingesting the hurt and compartmentalizing it within your heart. remove yourself from it and only bear witness. try a birds-eye view and step out of time, and be a witness looking in. you’ll gain a better perspective all the time.

© ruler of life 2017